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April 12th
10:42 PM

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"Some people bring out the worst in you, others bring out the best, and then there are those remarkably rare, addictive ones who just bring out the most. Of everything. They make you feel so alive that you’d follow them straight into hell, just to keep getting your fix."

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Karen Marie Moning (via creatingaquietmind)

Not into following anybody to hell - I mean damn, I have my limits - but yes to this. For better or for worse, I love it when those rare folks show up who grab a hold of my soul and shake it a little. It happens so rarely that it’s intensely unnerving, but there is something magical about how individuals are able to alchemize you by showing up in your life and resonating deeply.

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April 11th
9:39 PM

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"Everyone assumes that we will know how to love instinctively. Despite overwhelming evidence to the contrary, we still accept that the family is the primary school for love. Those of us who do not learn how to love among family are expected to experience love in romantic relationships. However, this love often eludes us. And we spend a lifetime undoing the damage caused by cruelty, neglect, and all manner of lovelessness experienced in our families of origin and in relationships where we simply did not know what to do."

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bell hooks, all about love (via thechanelmuse)

OMFG this. this is what i mean when i say people love however they know how. and if they learned to love and take love along w some nefarious ass conditions, they do expect to be able to dish it out in the same fashion. rarely do people really think about this shit and its sooo necessary to fucking grow as a human being and be able to exist fully. to face that ugliness. to learn how to love right without requiring any party to forgo their own self-worth.

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April 2nd
10:24 PM

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"I have always believed that each of us is responsible for doing their own emotional homework, that the process of facing down our ghosts is our small, attainable contribution to a kinetic process that holds the potential for healing the world. And why not? After all, the opposite is true: History has proven that people who are unwilling to catch and release their individual sadnesses, disappointments, and hidden motivations have compensated by wreaking havoc on the world. Good and evil lie within each of us, and every day we choose which potential to fill."

— Deborah Daw Heffernan (via larepublicadedet)

March 30th
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[Image: a white rabbit sitting in the woods by a lake, looking up at the crescent moon.]

“Does it hurt?” asked the Rabbit.

“Sometimes,” said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. “When you are Real you don’t mind being hurt.”

“Does it happen all at once, like being wound up,” he asked, “or bit by bit?”

“It doesn’t happen all at once,” said the Skin Horse. “You become. It takes a long time. That’s why it doesn’t happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don’t matter at all, because once you are Real you can’t be ugly, except to people who don’t understand.”

— from The Velveteen Rabbit (or How Toys Become Real) by Margery Williams, 1922

March 21st
1:20 AM

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"Often we take friendships for granted even when they are the interactions where we experience mutual pleasure. We place them in a secondary position, especially in relation to romantic bonds. This devaluation of our friendships creates an emptiness we may not see when we are devoting all our attention to finding someone to love romantically or giving all our attention to a chosen loved one."

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bell hooks, All About Love: New Visions (2000)

Good advice for Nice Guys. And those women out there who suddenly disappear on their friends the moment they find a significant other.

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March 20th
10:40 PM

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"There are times in life when those kind of excuses don’t cut it anymore."

— Haruki Murakami. (via dreamongood)

March 13th
9:20 PM

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"Friendship is love as much as any romance. And like any love, it’s difficult and treacherous and confusing."

— Naomi and Ely’s No Kiss List, Rachel Cohn and David Levithan (via asexyquotes)

March 4th
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"Fan fiction is what literature might look like if it were reinvented from scratch after a nuclear apocalypse by a band of brilliant pop-culture junkies trapped in a sealed bunker. They don’t do it for money. That’s not what it’s about. The writers write it and put it up online just for the satisfaction. They’re fans, but they’re not silent, couchbound consumers of media. The culture talks to them, and they talk back to the culture in its own language."

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The Boy Who Lived Forever | Time Magazine (via gypsy-sunday)

This is probably the best, non-judgmental description of fan fiction I’ve ever heard of in main stream media.

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March 2nd
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"Being asked to apologise for saying something unconscionable is not the same as being stripped of the legal right to say it. It’s really not very fucking complicated."

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January 27th
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What we are wearing is political and has really high stakes! The conditions of production of the actual materials we wear are life and death, and the consequences we all face for how we use clothing, grooming and style to craft our appearances are life and death. I’m thinking about racist laws that have attempted to ban sagging pants in some jurisdictions or use certain colors of clothing as methods to identify and criminalize youth of color for purported gang membership. I’m also thinking of the long history of sumptuary laws, and the horrific regulation of gender-related clothing and grooming items that trans prisoners are constantly fighting. Fashion is definitely a political question.

It’s interesting because fashion and style is a site of liberatory feelings at times—moments of pleasure, mutual recognition, belonging, escape, and rebellion. But there is also the broader context of extreme violence and coercion in which we dress ourselves. There is the constant danger of feeling wrong, being punished, and being stared at. These two elements are often happening simultaneously. I think about this when I engage with people who I know are making choices about their appearances that are both highly endangering and also feel urgently important or wonderfully expressive. It is amazing how much so many people risk to wear their look. Certainly, many trans people exemplify this, risking extreme violence walking around offending gender norms and being beautiful.

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Dean Spade in an interview with Queer Couture

this entire article is blowing my mind. it is so much of what my work is about, and it makes me feel all warm and fuzzy to read more and more articles like this one, to see that work is being done by others in impressive passionate ways.

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